I just watched my hubby drive away and I started thinking to myself does this get easier over time or do we as military wives just get so use to our hubbys being gone that we dont know when it truely hurts??? And is it wrong to cry when they leave?? I dont try and make my hubby feel bad cause I know he has to go but for some reason the tears just flow and I dont mean for that to happen in front of him... So I'm asking all the military wives out there for some input... Thanks for reading this 

we have been in 10 years now and have had lots and lots of deployments, no it does not get easier, but you learn to enjoy the time you are together and enjoy the time apart. I cry when he leaves but I tell him it is because I love him and that he doesn't need to worry about us. As long as you let him know that you will be okay it is okay to cry. It completely natural to hurt when you love someone and they have to go. Get yourself a good network of friends and stay busy, that always worked for me. Hope this helps 

Thanks for the advice... 

I remember when my hubby was still in the military. He got stationed in Arizona for a year before retiring to be with me. He tried to see me as often as possible but I cried everytime he had to leave. I waited until he was out the door, that way he wouldn't worry about me being okay. I can't imagine how some of the military wives cope with their husbands leaving all the time. I definitely feel like military wives are some of the strongest women. I have a t shirt that says "if you think being in the army is rough, try being an army wife." I love! 

My husband told me once that he likes it if I cry a little when he leaves. They don't want us thinking we are happy to see them go :) 

so should i cry or not cry.. I mean i dont wanna make him feel bad 

I think crying is fine, it let's them know that they are loved and will be missed. Just dont let it get out of control cause then they may just worry about you. 

I agree.. I cried a little when my husband left for deployment.. I really tried not to but couldn't keep the tears back..... When he hugged me he said he felt bad and I just told him I was ok-just loved him, he understood. 

How can i keep from missing him this much... I mean i literaly sit by the phone waiting for him to text or call me 

You won't stop missing him, but it does get a bit easier. The first couple weeks is hard and then you get into a new routine. I had a one year old to keep me busy last time my husband was gone. My brother and sister came to visit for a bit to keep me busy too. 

I have read some of the things that you have written about TDY's and deployments. If you are not concerned about the COMSEC issue that you are creating by talking about deployments on an open forum maybe you should be concerned about your own safety in the fact that you are telling the world that you are all alone during these times. You really need to stop and think about what you are posting because you are affecting not only your spouse's safety but your own as well.